Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Self Proclaimed Free Advisers

There exists a unique species of "Self-Proclaimed-Free-Advisers" in this world. You keep meeting different types of these species in different phases of your life! There are Education and Career SPFA, then there are Fitness SPFA, not to forget the Relationship SPFA and certainly Parenthood SPFA. These are the ones I have seen more often, I am sure there would be more. This service provided really has nothing to do with their abilities or success stories in the respective free advice topics!  But if you are born lucky (I certainly do not believe that there is such a thing!), only then you will not encounter such people! So chances are very high that you might have already met them! If not, you will meet them in the near future for sure!

After a lot of frustrations and annoyance regarding this species (Oh! Did I forget to mention that there is a huge element of "Judgments and Prejudices" when these people start talking?), I have found out a way to make it more productive for you! First thing is to just listen than try telling them other perspectives. Second - if it is going to help you in even in a little way, register that and ignore the rest. If not, well ignore all of it! Consider it as a "patience testing" exercise! It works really, I have tried it!

So the next time you come across any SPFA, here's what you can do -

  1. Smile all the time while you are listening! (It costs you nothing! Now-a-days, people really smile like it's a perishable good and needs to be used only during emergency!)
  2. Relate what can be helpful and register, ignore the rest! (To help you ease the latter process say this phrase in your mind - "If ignorance is bliss, you must be orgasmic!")
  3. After the lecture is over, just say "Thanks for informing me this, I will definitely think about it!". And that's it. Nothing more! It is tough, but trust me, NOTHING MORE!!!
  4. Find an immediate excuse to move away! 
You will feel the steam blowing off your head, once you are away from that person! The feeling of not having to see him/ her for another lecture anytime soon is so energizing!! And thus, peace of mind is restored!

1 comment:

Nilesh Gurav said...

We all have to live with this keep smiling and leave it

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