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Chocolate Chips Muffins (Whole wheat based)

Chocolate indulgence is one of the best stress busters for many. Those of you who live off chocolates really don't need any further explanation. This one is specifically dedicated to the chocolate addicts.

This recipe is borrowed from this site but modified by me for matching my family's dietary restrictions and taste buds.

Makes - 6 nos.

All you need -

1 egg60 ml buttermilk60 ml vegetable oil30 ml room temperature coco (made from 30 ml water and 1/2 tea spoon of coco powder)1/2 tea spoon vanilla extract113 gms wheat flour12.5 gms unsweetened coco powder102.5 gms light brown sugar1/4 tea spoon baking powder1/2 tea spoon baking sodapinch of salt100 gms chocolate chips How to make - Pre-heat oven to 190 degrees C (or 375 degrees F). Place the oven rack in the center of the oven. Line 6 muffin cups with paper liners. In a large bowl, whisk together the eggs, buttermilk, oil, room temperature coco and vanilla extract.In another large bowl whisk together the flour, coco powder, brow…

Apple Streusel Cake and Apple Crumble Pie

Followed her recipes till the last detail!

Do try out Apple Streusel Cake and Apple Crumble Pie if you love the flavor of Apples. If you don't, I am sure you will start loving it with just one of these recipes! :-)

And Joy of Baking is an awesome website!

p.s: Thank you Joy of Baking for giving me the real joy of baking! :-)

Beginning in the End

Preparation time is something we all know as a term. We see it around us in every form. Even a school going kid is well versed with it. To give that one hour examination, a student spends at least a few weeks studying for the subjects every day. Dancers spend hours on rehearsals for that one show. Athletes spend a year long training sessions for that one competition. And the list of how much preparation influences the final performance is endless.

But do we really use this in our daily lives? The chances of a negative response is higher because many of us may not have even thought about it. Don't worry, when it comes to our daily lives, we do preps without even knowing that we are doing it. That is good and bad at the same time. Good because we are preparing, yet bad, because there may not be any structure to it making us lose time. The idea behind having a structure is exactly what we learnt while preparing for school exams. If you want to pass or achieve good grades, you have t…


Self-sufficiency is defined as "needing no outside help in satisfying one's basic needs". Basic needs, as in very basic needs of humans - food, water, shelter and clothing. Now with the modern context it is also extended to sanitation, education and healthcare. And yet, we find more and more educated people not understanding this term!

Understanding or rather misunderstanding is seen because, the implied meaning of self-sufficiency changes with the gender. It is considered inferior when it is a boy and an ambition when it is a girl! Surprisingly, both are ridiculed for entirely different reasons when they are just self sufficient!

A lot would change if self-sufficiency is taught as a basic hygiene factor for a balanced life without gender bias! A self-sufficient person is more sorted than someone who lives off or shows off someone else's earned money! You learn to appreciate self-sustained lives instead of judging, because you know what it takes to get what you have.…

either... or...

"You either have results or reasons, it can never be both!"What followed after I heard this could be summarized like, 'my mind wandered at a different place and only this sentence kept repeating in front of my eyes'. It was as if one of my favorite songs was being played in a loop for hours together, yet I wanted to hear it just one more time! I got influenced with this logic so much so that I saw almost everything in either-or form, since that day! It was very assuring and gave a different perspective to my out look! To name a few examples - you are either pregnant or not, your cake is either baked or not, you are either fit or not, you either know the truth or not! Are you getting what I am trying to say? There can't be a little pregnant or a half baked or a semi-fit or a partial truth you can go on with! It doesn't do any good to anybody, because it doesn't exist! Do we consider a work in progress as a finished good and use it? Hell no! It doesn't…


Destiny of the word "Destiny" is very unfortunate. It is always destiny's fault when things go wrong. It was already written and hence life went out of control. If something has to happen, it will happen no matter what. Poor Destiny, always becomes the scapegoat.

In Destiny's defense, I'd like to specify that we can only fool others by blaming it on destiny. You can even try to run away from the consequences of your wrong choices. But the truth is, one often meets his or her destiny on the path taken to avoid it. For we shape our destiny during the time we make our decisions. The consequences of our choices are the elements of our own destiny. If something goes wrong, it's not the destiny but the moment when the unworthy choice was made. If it was already written, it was written at the same time you made that wrong decision.

There's a saying in Hindi "नसीब गांडू तो क्या करेगा पांडू? (Naseeb gandu to kya karega Pandu?)" Roughly translated in Eng…

Life Partner

Dating getting evolved into marriage is incredibly scary now a days! I cannot even begin to explain the fear associated with married life I see around me. You see more and more couples delaying the big question in spite of having dated for years together. You also see a majority choosing short term hook ups because they are not willing to commit. Or the best of all, friends with benefits which is nothing but a hoax in my honest opinion! Simply because you are abusing both the relationships in this context - that of a lover and that of a friend. You can never cherry pick things, and may be that is why they land up alone in spite of having multiple relationships or feel inexplicably insecure in spite of prolonged dating. But there has to be more to it! If I ponder a bit on this I feel it lies in the lack of efforts to make things happen for you.

When you choose a life partner, you're choosing a lot more and very important things. This decision will define your life for the next 30-…

What you see is not what you have

The twenties of today are facing a new challenge to walk on the path of self discovery. Just a generation senior, but it seems unbelievably different from us! We were taught to look within ourselves, value of introspection must have been imbibed in us when we were barely out of diapers, and most importantly, we were made responsible for our lives way before we became self sufficient! There was never any scope to indulge in the blame game when something went wrong! What is more, if we complained of something, a clear response was - you can never complain about something you permit! In a nut shell, answers lie within oneself.

With the compulsive display of one's life on public forum, the current twenties seem to be trapped in this virtual world! They will rather spend time in making their online profiles look outstanding than actually invest time in building their personalities. They will compare others updates, picture perfect photos and judge themselves based on how others lives …

Really Good but Socially Bad Wife

Married working women are perpetual targets for a poor evaluation as wives! I have been told that it existed much more than ten years before I started working. Given the conditions around me, I am convinced it will remain the same for at least next ten years from the same time. Sad but true!

It always amazes me, what is the big deal about women cooking and taking the so called care of their husbands? If that man is big enough to get  married, can he not rustle up a meal and take care of himself? I mean, if the man is incapable of demonstrating these basic survival skills at the time of his marriage, how is it the woman yet to be married to him, responsible for it? And if that is okay for the groom, is the expectation to fulfill these skills from the bride fair?

When I hear someone ask working women the question if they can cook, I instinctively respond with the same question to the men in their lives. This response often beats the entire intention of ridiculing working women and tagg…

Official goodbye to my twenties!

30th year is a sort of a cusp year between twenties and thirties! A year jam packed with too many moments of experiencing the grown up self, and others noticing it too! (Thank heavens for that!) Turning 31 years old, today, I am officially in my early thirties! I have heard, read and been told several times about the things one should accomplish or experience before they turn 30 years old. Even tough I feel that there is no point putting an age band for experiences in general, while I was going back in time, I had a changed mind. I do feel there are a few experiences one should have before turning 30! At least, it is better if you do, because your capacity to bounce back is stronger than later on, stakes are low, and most importantly, possibilities of a 'next chance' are higher.

If I have to list out 10 experiences in these ten years of my twenties, they would be as follows. I would totally recommend one should experience a few of these in their twenties.

Dreams shattered! I e…

ये नज़दीकियाँ

ये नज़दीकियाँ जमीन पर पाँव रहे ने नहीं देतें , शिकायत कैसे करें जब समय ही ये गुजारिश करें? किन लफ़ज़ों मे कहें अपनी दिल की बातें ? इस कश्मकश में ना गुजर जाएं सारी रातें।
ये नज़दीकियाँ जो आखों से ना दिखें पर मन में नजर आएं, जिसे कहकर नहीं, छूकर बताया जाएं। नजदीक ना होकर भी करीब आजायें,  जता ने से  नहीं जस्बातों से बंधा जाएं। 
ये नज़दीकियाँ हर एक पल में जिंदगी भर दें, खोए हुए को रास्ता दिखा दें, सरे दुःखों को ख़ुशी में बदल दें, दो दिलों को हमेशा के लिए मिला दें। 
ये नज़दीकियाँ, ये नज़दीकियाँ, ये नज़दीकियाँ।


The trap is that, we are always in a rush to answer all the questions. Just imagine what happens if we question our answers instead?

Focus on answering means we are putting an end to go deeper. It means, we'd rather bask in the glory of having the last word than learn something we've never known before. Sometimes, it even means negotiating with oneself for avoiding confrontation! And worst, become the pseudo listeners who just wait for the questions to get over before they can begin their answers. It only puts us in false comfort zones!

Questions help us in looking at the same things differently every time! It encourages introspection and makes us better than our yesterday. Questioning your answers is the manifestation of your courage to confront head on! You listen thoroughly only when you ask questions! There is a possibility to cause change.

In my opinion, people seem to be more afraid of the answers and hence are averse to asking questions. Times like these should also be…