What is better? Being faithful to your partner because of the conventions, or because of your virtue? Fidelity in our society leads to obligations in a relationship rather than choices. An act contributing to a relationship out of choice gives it a profound significance. Actually this is a rhetorical question. What I fear is the point where it will be difficult to identify an act’s motive and the apprehension of a beautiful reason to become doubtful. I don’t know the reason behind this feeling, but it is difficult for me to come to terms with the social rules for relationships. On a second note, I strongly believe that social norms of fidelity suck out the genuineness of a relationship. So I CHOOSE to not abide by them!
4 comments:
Would you rather have a faithless (by choice) partner or conventionally faithful spouse?
Sometimes you gotta bask in the warmth of the actions rather than wander around searching for the true intentions behind them. Don't you think?
If you're lucky, the actions will be from genuine feelings. But that my friend is a matter of chance :)
I do not believe in conventions! So the later is not an option for me at all!! As for the former, tell me what do you mean by faith when you say "faithless by choice"!
So long as there is transperency, is there a need to keep searching for anything?? :-) According to me if there are no open books between partners, then both the choices suggested by you are bound to fail!! And that wont be by chance but by choice of opaqueness!! Dont you think so?? :-)
Nice Post Snigdha, your posts give me an opportunity to philophise and follow tangents... Lateral thinking they call it...
You have used the word choice as if choice is something outside us, the choice that's outside us (the one that society gives)is a very dis-empowering context, that's because then the choice is limited to what is available and not to what is possible... Please understand the profound difference in context of available and possible... When we look at choice as what is available we limit it to the number of options available....
The other way to look at choice is as something that resides with in us, something that we can exercise out of our will... So well even when we have only one option, we can still choose it and be powerful in the face of it, while if we were to choose the only option that we have because that was the only option, we would have been limited. so .... well... would you actually call the later choice... I doubt..
May be we are talking the same things ... but generally speaking, I have seen people making choices without exercising their choice.... and that's sad...
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Infinite
its indeed sad, and thats the reason i specifically mentioned that i choose not to abide by the available chioices!! :-D
btw.. "your posts give me an opportunity to philophise and follow tangents... Lateral thinking they call it..." - you are being too kind by saying this!! :-)
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