Re- al/ bel

What is better? Being faithful to your partner because of the conventions, or because of your virtue? Fidelity in our society leads to obligations in a relationship rather than choices. An act contributing to a relationship out of choice gives it a profound significance. Actually this is a rhetorical question. What I fear is the point where it will be difficult to identify an act’s motive and the apprehension of a beautiful reason to become doubtful. I don’t know the reason behind this feeling, but it is difficult for me to come to terms with the social rules for relationships. On a second note, I strongly believe that social norms of fidelity suck out the genuineness of a relationship. So I CHOOSE to not abide by them!

City of Fast Life

The richest man stays in this city,
So does a beggar who dies of hunger,
Somewhere an entrepreneur sets leading examples
And somewhere a gangster plans destructions.
Here, some give life and some take life,
Because; anything is possible in the city of fast life!

Dear ones are not known by their presence in the heart,
They exist because they need one’s income’s part.
Gone are the days when there were gentlemen’s words,
If you want to win the race, grab all the loop holes;
Here, the key to success is nothing but bribe,
Because; anything is possible in the city of fast life!

Distances in hours, meetings in minutes,
Expressions in seconds and interactions in fractions!
Where the rate of marriages equals that of divorce rates;
Living together but cannot define the relationship’s fate,
No one shudders to be with someone else’s wife.
Because; anything is possible in the city of fast life!

Too much time goes in coping with the speed,
Families become burden and children become liabilities;
When this momentum applies to these childhoods,
Young boys transform into men, and girls into women,
Innocence is lost to the pace of this life style,
Because; anything is possible in the city of fast life!

Living in one of the tallest buildings,
You still don’t know the names of your neighbors;
Travel for longer hours and compensate working hours
To land up home only for dinners.
One can’t help but wonder; how can they possibly thrive?
Because; anything is possible in the city of fast life!

Simple

So simple it is to live,
So simple it is to love,
So simple it is to smile,
So simple it is to win,
But the fact is it is so difficult to be…
So Simple!

p.s. Isn’t it true? I still fail to understand how we land up complicating simple things!

Best

"It is a funny thing about life: if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it."
-Somerset Maugham

One of the reasons why perfectionists are so is because they can’t settle for second best. They focus and accomplish smaller goals to cumulatively achieve more every time. And success for them is a never ending process. In fact, for them success is a by product of incessant progress. Even though these statements seem to be mundane, they indeed qualify as an example for “Winners don’t do different things, they do things differently!” We seldom realize that mediocrity in our life is only because we compromise on the unavailability of the best. And winners go on to become the mile stones in that domain just because they hold on further where we give up.

I wish to conclude with one of my favorite quotes by my guide, “Knowing and not doing is not knowing!” :-)

Google Rocks

There has been weird turn of events lately. It all began with my mail getting hacked. I wasn’t super upset about it because I knew I have a parallel account from where I can retrieve my Gmail password within no time. But no, it gets even worse. My parallel account has been hacked too…

By the time I had digested this, I was struggling to convince myself that it’s not the end of the world if your password is cracked. The option of ‘forgot password’ was still in my hands. But the real joke begins here… with my security question changed there was no way I could get thorough the other account as well! This was the last straw. I felt as if been slapped across my face!!!

The thought of not being able to access my own account wounded me. Besides, my professional correspondence was locked. And the impending doom of retrieving all the lost contacts shook me to my foundations! I am not a technical person either to understand what exactly could be done to get through. (Not that the techies can! :-P But still I give them the due importance they ask for! :-P)

With the user friendly support system, I followed every step asked by them scrupulously and got my account functioning again. This all happened within 36 hours! As for the other account, well, I am still hoping to get it back. Like it’s said, “hope for the best, prepare for the worst”, I am already prepared!!! :-)

A take away for all the non-techies, use Google as if you have made it! It actually gives you that impression and you get paralyzed if you can’t access it. (This is indeed experience speaking!) I am back in form with the potion called as ‘Google’. Google rocks!!! I love theeeeeee!!!! :-D

Financial Year 2008-09

“Small minds talk about Sales,
Average minds talk about Business,
Great minds talk about Growth,
LEGENDS never talk,
They only perform!!!”

-Anonymous

P.S: This is my first experience of a financial year-end and New Year beginning. Had heard a lot about such changeovers; apart from a few mistakes that I made, it was an experience to be celebrated! The targets for sales and production, all the statements and mainly the New Year plan was really interesting. :-)

I love or don’t, is the question…

Adhering to the promise I made to Infinite (the one who commented on Sarabhai…) I am trying not to sound sarcastic or offensive. :-)
Following is an absolutely atypical and one of the most beautiful definitions of love I have come across. AK said this complicated thing (perhaps perceived!) in such a simple way that simply bowled out everyone present at our simple get together. It’s indeed true that, often-superlative things emerge from simplest sources or situations.

“Love isn’t a feeling, it’s a state of mind. And a trigger is required to transpire into that state. And that trigger is no more than grief. To put it in a cause-effect structure, if one feels sad because he cannot see someone in pain, then he is in love with that person. For e.g. if an infant’s death (grief) makes the parents sad because they cannot see the other in pain, they fall in love. Following this theory, the frequent question asked ‘do you love me?’ actually sounds irrelevant. It could better be, ‘do I love you?’ And instead of analyzing if someone loves us or not, isn’t it better to begin with self? To make it finer, every time a couple survives a grievance together, they fall in love with each other. Now, how long this state would last depends on how complementary they are to each other. Two parallel lines never meet; similarly, two identical people would have a hard time maintaining this state. But opposites attract, likewise, complementary people sustain that state longer because one lacks what the other has, fitting the jigsaw all the time. To conclude on this, love cannot happen when everything around is happy. For the only reason, who wouldn’t want to be with someone who has no worries? When someone wants to be with you even when you are in the worst of your phases, then it can be termed as love. If its love, it means to be together forever in the real sense of the term!”
- A.K.

I realized how this theory perfectly fit to all the real life successful relationships as well as the miserably failed ones. The relationships I look up to are of those who have survived several difficult times together. After all a person who has seen life for more than 65 years would state only time-tested things! :-)